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Mind the gap DAY 11

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoiceswith the truth. 7 It always protects, always

trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

The bustling London Underground system is something to behold. My wife used to live there for some years and I’ve been there a couple of times. There is one phrase you’ll hear over and over again when you stand on the platform. It is a very annoying lady voice constantly crying out: “Mind the gap, mind the gap.” She means the gap between the platform and the train, one you have to cross to get to your destination. We all have a gap to cross ourselves. In any relationship, big or small. We must also mind the gap.

…always trusts

The greatest foundation of any relationship is trust. Psychologists and theologians alike will testify that no healthy relationship can function without deep trust. When we get hurt in a relationship or meet someone for the first time, there is a gap. A gap we can either fill with trust or suspicion. That is a choice me have to make daily. We are all relational beings and wherever we go, the depth of our relationships are determined by how we handle this gap. For this gap to be filled two things need to happen – one person needs to trust and the other needs to be trustworthy. The diffi

culty is that sometimes we need to trust before someone proves themselves trustworthy.

I have been on both ends- where I’ve broken trust and where I need to extend trust. Some people are by nature more trusting or more suspicious because of their personality type or background. Some people need to get out of abusive relationships where the other person has shown over and over again that they are not trustworthy.

But I also believe that living with trust is so much more freeing and rewarding. Ultimately my trust must be in God, in his goodness and the motives of his heart. If I am always suspicious and uncertain, then love is lacking. Love thrives in an environment of trust, but shrivels up in a spirit of distrust. Love sees trust where others see distrust. Love sees potential where others see disqualification. Love sees success where others see failure. Love sees a hurting human being where others see someone who is angry. Love thinks the best, but distrust thinks the worst. Love and trust feed off each other; they propel one another to greater heights. Love always trusts.

Stay safe and stand strong.

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